Hey!! Don't you think you are putting on weight girl?
Well the dress you have worn is making you look odd,
Those flat shoes are bad , why don't you try stilettos ?
I think you need to put on some foundation to hide that tan.
The girl silently listens to every comment passed by her relatives and peers , and she tries to give them an explanation too , but she fails utterly and walks off......
The above mentioned scenario is pretty common amongst us , where substance holds no value and fashion, a passing fad.
Many women get into a shell or depression,when faced with body shaming.
WHAT IS BODY SHAMING???
The action or practice of humiliating someone by making a mocking or critical comment about their body shape or size.
Most of the social media channels advertise models that are lean , tall , fair and have an apt figure and therefore it becomes the dream of almost every girl to look the way these models are being portrayed. What they fail to realise is that , the photo being advertised has come after almost thousand retakes,camera angles,makeup,altering of clothes,lightings etc,etc...,and therefore the DRAMATIC METAMORPHOSIS.
Question raised by me is - WHY LOOK LIKE SOMEONE, WHY NOT HAVE YOUR OWN IDENTITY??
For the society a girl is someone who is delicate,soft spoken and oh!! most important SHE NEEDS TO LOOK GOOD. A girl who is big and fat is probably not the ideal one.
I do agree that obesity is not good as it invites several diseases,but people fail to understand that a women can look BIG and can still be functionally able.
It is not necessary that she needs to look a certain way to stay healthy.
What should matter the most is the HEALTH AND NOT THE SUPERFICIAL APPEARANCE.
Most of the women have a very low self-esteem about the way they look , most of the time they have a certain image in their mind in which they don't fit , this kind of an attitude creates a high inferior feeling in them which makes them feel low about themselves.
I as a trainer get to hear from a lot of women that they want to reduce fat because they have to attend a party or wedding events or they are getting engaged in a couple of months.
My question to them is :- "ARE THEY WANTING TO REDUCE FOR THE APPROVAL OF OTHERS OR FOR THEMSELVES?
Most of the time its for the others , because the question that haunts them is "WHAT IF THEY DON'T APPROVE??.
WEIGHT TRAINING AND SELF LOVE AND CONFIDENCE
Weight training plays a major role in boosting a person's confidence which also results in self love.
1)WEIGHT TRAINING INCREASES SELF BELIEF:- Through weight training you get onto a stage where things which were impossible for you to do becomes the most easiest. This helps a person gain a lot of confidence.
Ex:-Lifting the gas cylinder and walking up the stairs.(Expression of your family members is a must watch at that particular moment)
2)FEEL BEAUTIFUL INSIDE:-Weight training makes a person more functionally able, this makes a person feel good about themselves.
3)WEIGHT TRAINING AND DRESSING UP:-Weight training makes you fitter and fitter and therefore anything and everything starts looking good on you.
Ex: There is no point in wearing a Vero Moda branded dress , when you don't have the confidence and health to carry it.
4)FEEL GOOD HORMONE:- High intensity training releases hormones called Endorphins and Encyphalins which are also called FEEL GOOD HORMONES, which makes a person feel good, elated, euphoric.
5) ABOUT RESPONSIBILITIES AND CHALLENGES:- A person who is strong physically and mentally is ever ready to take up challenges and responsibilities which is a rare trait in today's world
"ONLY IN A FIT PHYSIQUE RESIDES AN ABLE MIND".
So the next time you see people commenting on you just walk up to them and say
"I'm confident and functionally able , this fact itself makes me more happy and love myself even more and I don't need your approval".
......There would be only silence from their side and applause from my side.
Well the dress you have worn is making you look odd,
Those flat shoes are bad , why don't you try stilettos ?
I think you need to put on some foundation to hide that tan.
The girl silently listens to every comment passed by her relatives and peers , and she tries to give them an explanation too , but she fails utterly and walks off......
The above mentioned scenario is pretty common amongst us , where substance holds no value and fashion, a passing fad.
Many women get into a shell or depression,when faced with body shaming.
WHAT IS BODY SHAMING???
The action or practice of humiliating someone by making a mocking or critical comment about their body shape or size.
Most of the social media channels advertise models that are lean , tall , fair and have an apt figure and therefore it becomes the dream of almost every girl to look the way these models are being portrayed. What they fail to realise is that , the photo being advertised has come after almost thousand retakes,camera angles,makeup,altering of clothes,lightings etc,etc...,and therefore the DRAMATIC METAMORPHOSIS.
Question raised by me is - WHY LOOK LIKE SOMEONE, WHY NOT HAVE YOUR OWN IDENTITY??
For the society a girl is someone who is delicate,soft spoken and oh!! most important SHE NEEDS TO LOOK GOOD. A girl who is big and fat is probably not the ideal one.
I do agree that obesity is not good as it invites several diseases,but people fail to understand that a women can look BIG and can still be functionally able.
It is not necessary that she needs to look a certain way to stay healthy.
What should matter the most is the HEALTH AND NOT THE SUPERFICIAL APPEARANCE.
Most of the women have a very low self-esteem about the way they look , most of the time they have a certain image in their mind in which they don't fit , this kind of an attitude creates a high inferior feeling in them which makes them feel low about themselves.
I as a trainer get to hear from a lot of women that they want to reduce fat because they have to attend a party or wedding events or they are getting engaged in a couple of months.
My question to them is :- "ARE THEY WANTING TO REDUCE FOR THE APPROVAL OF OTHERS OR FOR THEMSELVES?
Most of the time its for the others , because the question that haunts them is "WHAT IF THEY DON'T APPROVE??.
WEIGHT TRAINING AND SELF LOVE AND CONFIDENCE
Weight training plays a major role in boosting a person's confidence which also results in self love.
1)WEIGHT TRAINING INCREASES SELF BELIEF:- Through weight training you get onto a stage where things which were impossible for you to do becomes the most easiest. This helps a person gain a lot of confidence.
Ex:-Lifting the gas cylinder and walking up the stairs.(Expression of your family members is a must watch at that particular moment)
2)FEEL BEAUTIFUL INSIDE:-Weight training makes a person more functionally able, this makes a person feel good about themselves.
3)WEIGHT TRAINING AND DRESSING UP:-Weight training makes you fitter and fitter and therefore anything and everything starts looking good on you.
Ex: There is no point in wearing a Vero Moda branded dress , when you don't have the confidence and health to carry it.
4)FEEL GOOD HORMONE:- High intensity training releases hormones called Endorphins and Encyphalins which are also called FEEL GOOD HORMONES, which makes a person feel good, elated, euphoric.
5) ABOUT RESPONSIBILITIES AND CHALLENGES:- A person who is strong physically and mentally is ever ready to take up challenges and responsibilities which is a rare trait in today's world
"ONLY IN A FIT PHYSIQUE RESIDES AN ABLE MIND".
So the next time you see people commenting on you just walk up to them and say
"I'm confident and functionally able , this fact itself makes me more happy and love myself even more and I don't need your approval".
......There would be only silence from their side and applause from my side.
Absolutely agree.. we as women like to go by the rule book.. but we shouldn’t forget that in the long run we should be able to carry the onus of our responsibilities towards our work and family for which being functionally able is paramount whilst looks are just temporary . I see young girls with eating disorders and cannot help but feel sorry for them . We should raise our daughters with bigger goals in mind rather than just objectifying them !
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot for the encouragement ma'am.
DeleteVery rightly brought out the necessity to improve one's own self rather than please others!
ReplyDeleteWeight training really trims the body.
Thanks a lot. Completely agreed. Infact weight training not only changes the physical appearance, it does a lot for the mental health too.
DeleteYess..I am facing this problem in my college now and that is why I joined weight training under you to make my self confident,Healthy and to stand up to them..this blog really did motivated me Anisah di.
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot. You are already doing great girl.
DeleteBeautiful write-up
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot Mansa.
DeleteAmazingly portrayed! A must read for every individual, especially a "lady". To all the girls', a word for thought into your ladyhood.
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot keerthana. Hope this article brings in some change in every women.
DeleteA great subject to write about... I know we as women are always subjected to be and to remain skinny and thin... Only that's considered to be acceptable... Staying healthy, exercise and eating right is more important, not starving and being size zero.. I hope people start understanding that and modify their acceptance...
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot . Hope this message reaches out to a lot of women.
DeleteA very good article. Must read for all young girls who get pulled down by their appearance.
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot . Hope it reaches to as many women as possible
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